DO YOU WANT TO STOP THE OBSESSION LOOP IN DATING?
Structured therapy for attachment anxiety, fear of abandonment, and relationship obsession.
You don’t just want them.
You want relief from the feeling that you might be left.
When uncertainty shows up - slower replies, mixed signals, emotional distance - your body reacts first.
Chest tight.
Stomach drops.
Sudden urgency.
Your attention collapses onto them.
You stop asking: Do they meet my standards?
And start asking: How do I stop them from leaving?
This isn’t weakness.
It’s a nervous system loop.
The Loop.
When the uncertainty appears, your nervous system fires an alarm.
I call this Target Obsession Reflex - the sudden surge of urgency and fear of being left.
If the alarm keeps firing, your attention locks onto one person.
That’s Single Target Obsession - where keeping them becomes more important than evaluating the relationship.
The brain links uncertainty with importance
And the loop repeats.
We accept you as you are while acknowledging the need for change to move forward.
How we interrupt it.
This work isn’t about analysing texts better.
It’s about interrupting the nervous system pattern driving the urgency.
There are three levels of support, depending on how deeply you want to shift the loop.
The TOR Reset Session
Interrupt the alarm and regain clarity.
For immediate stabilisation.
The TOR & STO Intensive
Break the repeating fixation pattern.
For structural change.
The Loop Rewire Transformation
Rewire the attachment loop so it doesn’t rebuild.
For identity-level change.
When the Loop Settles.
When the nervous system alarm quiets, everything changes.
You stop monitoring.
You stop waiting to be chosen.
You tolerate uncertainty without spiraling.
You evaluate instead of chase.
You make decisions from steady - not urgency.